Women who have sex are shamed by being called sluts. Women who don’t have sex are shamed by being considered boring prudes. Women who watch after themselves at public events are deemed man-hating spawns of Lucifer. Women who are comfortable in public are loose bitches who are asking for sexual assault. Women who are independent and career driven are labeled intimidating and unapproachable, especially women of color, even though reports continue to show successful women are willing to forsake their own standards to settle own. Women who would rather be stay at home moms are criticized for being lazy and contributing nothing, which again proves why motherhood and the tedious never yielding tasks that come with it are underappreciated.
Theres no winning if you are a woman. Someone is going to have a problem with you no matter what you do. It’s womanhood that’s the problem, not sexual activity.
Why is there very little utility to women’s clothing? Why don’t we get pockets which actually open? Why do we have to put up with the ‘false pockets’ that are frequently sewn onto women’s jackets and pants to give visual interest without ruining the ‘line’ of the garment? Why, when pockets are actually present, are they so rarely large, stable, or loose enough to accommodate a phone or a wallet? And why, given this is the case, do women go on to cop so much flack for carrying handbags around with them?
Oh wait. Is this one of those double standards which we feminists are always going on about; one of those innocuous little things which everybody just accepts because it is the norm?
Women carry handbags. It is known.
But why? I have watched my male friends get ready to go out. They slip their wallet into one pocket, their keys into another, their phone into a third pocket, and some of them even still have spare pockets large enough to carry a novel for the journey. Those of my friends who wear women’s clothes, though, face an entirely different situation. If they are wearing the right jeans or jacket, they may have up to two usable pockets (not at all guaranteed). However, in most cases they won’t have any pockets at all. Utility and style rarely meet in women’s fashion, so they grab a bag.
Contrary to all the jokes, most women don’t ‘have’ to leave the house with everything they pack in their day-to-day handbag. Most of the items in a woman’s everyday handbag are in there because, if she’s going to have to carry it anyway, she might as well make it worth her while. Excuse us for making use of the one useful item we find in our wardrobes.